Winston deliberately rushed into this fatherhood thing without apparently having
the slightest inkling of the consequences. As it turns out, fatherhood for
Winston pretty much ended with the responsible orgasm.
This is what he sent out to his entire email
list of some 400+ individuals:
Subject: Dianne is pregnant! Can anyone answer some
questions?
Date: Wednesday, June 13, 2007 4:59 AM
From: "Winston Wu" <eclectic007@gmail.com>
To: (Recipient list suppressed)
Hi all,
Well it's confirmed now. My girlfriend Dianne is pregnant, verified using a home
test kit. And she's decided to keep the baby because she feels ready for it now,
plus there is a belief here that abortions lead to bad karma.
So it looks like I'm finally going to be a father now, and my parents are
finally going to be grandparents.
When you first get this kind of news, you feel numb, and then it like suddenly
hits you. It's like a switch inside of you goes off and tells you that you can
no longer live for yourself anymore, and that your life is forever changed.
What's scary is that you feel like your sense of individuality and ego are going
to change, which is like a sort of "egoic death". It's kind of scary and hard to
take in and fathom, but you can feel it. Anyone here ever felt the same way?
My whole life I've always lived for myself at the core, but now I don't see how
I can possibly change that, even though I feel that that's going to change. Very
scary. I'm not sure if that's good news or bad news? On the one hand, I'm
already 34 and don't want to go through my whole life without ever having
fathered a child. But on the other, I'm not sure if I want to give up all my
freedom and individuality yet, or if I even can. I don't want to feel trapped
but I don't want to abandon my girl and our baby either. It's a hard conflict of
interest. And there probably is no win-win solution.
Anyway, Dianne went to her doctor today and got some tests, antibiotics, and
these tablets that help hold the baby in place to prevent miscarriage. Tomorrow
she has to go get an ultrasound at a birthing home.
Since I don't know anything about pregnancies, I was wondering whether those of
you who do can answer these following questions of mine:
1) What kind of foods should pregnant women avoid generally?
2) What other kind of checkups do we need?
3) What causes miscarriages and how do you prevent them?
4) At what point do you know whether it's a boy or girl? And how?
5) How do you prevent any birth defects? Is it very expensive to check for any?
6) How much should I budget during the whole pregnancy period?
I know that poor
people, even those living in slums, are able to deliver babies too. So obviously
there are dirt cheap ways, as well as the high priced services for the rich. But
what is the safest and most cost effective way?
7) If we went overseas and had the baby in another country, would it still be a
Filipino citizen?
8) If we went to the US and had the baby there, would it automatically become a
US citizen? If so, would that automatically give Dianne US citizenship too? Is
it easy for a Filipina to get a tourist visa to the states?
Thanks in advance for any help. It's not that I'm too lazy to look up these
answers myself online. It's just that 1) I like to get opinions from lots of
different people to gauge what the common patterns are in the answers (as any
good researcher and journalist does), and 2) most of you on my list are
intelligent, insightful and wise, so I deem your opinions to be of high value to
me.
Thanks,
Winston
Of course, being the responsible person that he is, Winston Wu planned the birth
well in advance and made sure that he, as the man of the house, took care of
everything. Oh, wait, that was from a fairy tale I was just reading.
Here's an email from a panicked Wu, shortly before the birth, in which he blames
his penniless Filipino in-laws -- including his
father-in-law who died of brain cancer a few weeks later -- for not having 'Phil Health' insurance that would
have cost him all of $2 per month for 6 months. And not only was he
expecting his in-laws to be financially responsible; he was also expecting the
birth that HE initiated to be paid for by Third World health insurance:
Subject: Dianne's parents screwed up our health insurance!
Should I be mad?
Date: Wednesday, December 12, 2007 1:10 AM
From: "Winston Wu" <eclectic007@gmail.com>
To: (Recipient list suppressed)
Shouldn't I be?
I'm going to vent my anger here, so if you don't want to hear it, you might want
to pass on this post.
During her hospital stay,
we found out that Dianne's dad had no health insurance at
all to cover her, like they claimed they did for
the past 6 months! When we found out that Phil Health would cover half the costs
of the delivery of the baby 5 or 6 months ago, we were going to apply. But then
Dianne's parents said that her dad's government bulldozer job had Phil Health
and that since she was under 24, she would be covered. So I went to the Phil
Health office and confirmed this. They gave me some forms for Dianne's parents
to fill out to activate her coverage under her dad's insurance plan.
Sounded simple enough.
The thing is, ever since then,
I've reminded Dianne and her mom every week to fill out
the forms and give them to me to turn in or else
turn it in themselves. Each time I brought it up, they kept saying "Don't worry.
We will get it taken care of." But they kept putting it off every week and every
month until last week. Now, right before Dianne was admitted to the hospital,
they finally turn in the forms to Phil Health, only to find out that Dianne's
dad was not eligible for Phil Health after all cause he had to have worked at
least one year at his job before qualifying!!!!!!! WTF?!
Why didn't they tell me that 5 or 6 months ago?!
I don't buy that it takes that long to find out if you have health coverage or
not!
They fucked up big time obviously!
I keep asking Dianne and her mom to provide a logical sensible reason for not
finding this out 6 months ago, but they had none! As I mentioned before, when
Filipinos screw up, they don't admit it or apologize. They just silently deny
it. That is annoying.
The thing is, IF they had found this out 5 or 6 months ago when I brought it up,
I could have applied her to Phil Health directly and we would have been covered
in time. But since it takes 6 months of membership at $2 a month before you can
use it, it's TOO LATE NOW!
I'm still in disbelief that her parents just didn't give a
f***! I'm the only one it seems, who gave a f*** about her health insurance!
All they had to do the last 6 months was either turn the documents in like I
said, or else her dad could have just asked his boss to tell him about the terms
of his health insurance coverage. Then this would have been avoided. But they
never bothered! How can that be? I'm still in disbelief and anger about it. How
can anyone's parents be that irresponsible and careless?! It pisses me off.
What this means is that someone will have to lose 10,000p
or 20,000p, $200 at least, for not us not having
any coverage, and even a lot more if a cesarean becomes necessary. To me that's
a lot of money. And it ticks me off big time to know that that much money will
be wasted because her parents didn't do a simple thing and that they didn't give
a fuck about her health insurance. Now, I can't trust them anymore in important
matters.
Obviously, the Filipino trait of being lax and not overly serious about life,
though fun to be around, does have its drawbacks, such as in this case.
I'm not sure though, how I would confront her parents about this. I mean how do
you tell someone nicely that "Because you didn't
give a shit and screwed up our health insurance, I or someone else is going to
have to lose at least $200 or even more if there's a cesarean."
The good news is that Dianne's super rich aunt from Canada, who has a fierce
hatred for "playboys" and thus dislikes me and my website, has agreed to help
out with her hospital expenses during the delivery. When she arrives,
I can explain to her what happened with her parents f***ing
up our insurance, and that otherwise I'd be willing to pay the whole cost.
But what if she didn't have a rich aunt to help her out
and cover such big mistakes? If that were the case,
I might have a dispute on my hands, because I might get so mad as to demand that
they come up with the other half of the cost for screwing up our insurance,
which they might not have anyway.
Either way, it just ticks me off big time.
What would you folks do in my situation? Wouldn't you be pissed too?
Like everything else in Wu's life, it's someone else's fault. And, as with
everything else, his main concern is not doing it right, but doing it the
cheapest way possible.
Thank God his 'wife' has a rich aunt to exonerate Wu from his responsibilities
as father. He actually calls the (gasp!) $200 extra that the
birth of his son would cost a "loss"? Does he have even an
inkling of how much hospital care he would receive for $200 in his own country?
They don't call him "Mr. Kuripot" (Tagalog for "tightwad") for nothing!
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